Indirectly and subtly blaming and criticizing another – judging myself for this – From: Diffusing Blame and Taking Self-Responsibility in Relationships

I notice that I am doing this in retrospect. But when I am doing this there is a sour/spiteful taste to my words and I am definitely not Standing One and Equal with the other, for example Viktor. I can see how this is a commonly accepted pattern in a society, where the facade of ‘good intentions’ keep the deception going. So the only way to get power is to do it subtly. I see this behavior as a way of criticizing the other to gain superiority and to gain control over oneself. It is definitely a nasty behavior and what I have done is that I have suppressed and ignored that I have done this, because I knew it was unacceptable – A good defense is always not being aware when we are doing something. I see that it is coming from a perception within me when I have done it to present myself as assertive, strong and clear, while what I am actually doing is trying to pull the other down. This is unacceptable and I will not allow myself to continue doing this. I stop judging myself for this, because I see how it is a part of a pattern that I have learned along with everyone else to survive and gain power – but that does not make it acceptable.

1.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to indirectly and subtly blame another, instead of Standing One and Equal with and as them in Support of both of us Equally Here as Life

2.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to accept subtle and indirect blame and critique as way to gain power and superiority over another, instead of realizing that I am only doing this, because I have accepted myself as inferior  and powerless in the first place

3.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to accept myself to participate, accept, validate and manifest indirect blame and subtle critique as an acceptable way of gaining power and superiority over another in this world and in and as me, instead of realizing that this is a tool of deception, self-abdication and spitefulness in which I have Accepted that I am in competition with another Separate from me in order to survive

4.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to Accept that I am competing with others to survive and I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to allow another to lose, to be powerless and to believe that they are inferior because of my acceptance of myself as inferior and powerless and in competition with others to survive and thereby justify attempting to gain power and superiority through subtle and indirect blame and critique

I Stand One and Equal with every Being in this World – If I Allow myself to participate in competition, survival and through that accept myself as inferior and thus justify attempting to be more than another, I have Accepted this for Every Being in All ways – AND I DO NOT!

This is not Acceptable and I Will not Allow myself or another to express indirect blame or subtle critique. Therefore I take a Breath before I show another what they are doing. I make sure that I only speak in Support and Equality. If I am not sure, I don’t speak and I Stop and investigate/re-establish my starting-point. I look at where or whether there is a point where I have accepted myself as inferior and I forgive myself, stop and let go.

I do not Accept myself as inferior because in doing so, I have Accepted Everyone else as inferior and superior as well – tacitly Allowing Separation and the continuation of Abuse and Deception and justification through competing for survival – which is not real and thus not relevant to begin with.

1.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself for having indirectly and subtly blamed another

2.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to use this judgment as a self-deceptive tool, wherein and through which I have justified abdicated Facing myself within this point and thus abdicating Self-Responsibility for having allowed myself to participate within it – thus having allowed myself to continue to indirectly and subtly blame and criticize another

3.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to suppress and ignore not only the fact that I have allowed myself to subtly and indirectly blame and criticize another, but also that I was judging myself for with – within this:

4.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to project self-judgment onto another  for subtly and indirectly blaming and criticizing me and for having used this to manipulate and gain power and superiority over me in a deceitful way , instead of realizing that I was abdicating and thus projecting myself onto them

5.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to project having allowed myself to subtly and indirectly blame and criticize another and thus seeing that it is them doing it to me and for having used this to manipulate and gain power and superiority over me in a deceitful way , instead of realizing that I was abdicating and thus projecting myself onto them

6.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to blame another for having subtly and indirectly blamed and criticized me in a manipulating and deceitful way to gain power and superiority over me, instead of realizing that this is only possible if I have already accepted it within myself and that I have also projected this onto another in abdication of my self-responsibility through judgment and suppression of myself.

7.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to Accept myself to judge myself for having subtly and indirectly blamed and criticized another to gain power and superiority, based on the justification that I am inferior and thus doing it survive

8.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to blame and judge myself for having participated in this and for having been spiteful towards another

9.       I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to blame and judge myself for having Accepted competition to survive based on Separation

10.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself for having wanting to get another down so that I could go up

11.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself for having justified within myself subtly and indirectly blaming and criticizing another through believing and accepting myself to be inferior

12.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself for having allowed another to believe and accept that they are inferior to me, based on me manipulating and deceiving them through subtle and indirect blame and critique

13.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself for how another allows themselves to accept themselves to believe that they are inferior to me and that my critique of them is valid, instead of realizing that I am only able to manipulate and criticize another, if they have already accepted this within themselves as valid and real and thus not taking self-responsibility for what they are accepting and allowed themselves to participate within and as

14.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge myself through memories of subtly and indirectly having blamed criticized Linda and within this:

15.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to fear that this is why Linda does not want to see me anymore

16.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to participate in judgment towards myself, instead of realizing that even though I am Responsible for what I have Allowed myself to participate in and as, I am also innocent – as Everyone else and that this pattern is based on the base-Acceptance of Separation, Survival and Self-Deception

17.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to have an opinion about myself that I am a bad person for having been spiteful, manipulative and deceiving towards another – instead of realizing that I have only been doing what I have been taught and that I have never been taught otherwise

18.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to judge my mother for having indirectly and subtly blamed and criticized me, being spiteful towards me and for having used this to manipulate and gain power and superiority over me in a deceitful way , for having seen her within this as bad and evil, instead of realizing that she is also innocent within this, and that she has also only done this based on an Acceptance of herself as inferior essentially based on All of us having accepted ourselves as Separate

19.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to believe that by judging myself for indirectly blaming and criticizing another, I was taking Responsibility for this within myself, instead of realizing that I was doing exactly the opposite and within this allowing myself to suppress and ignore what I was doing based on the moral judgment of myself

20.   I Forgive myself that I have Accepted and Allowed myself to Accept moral judgment as valid and real

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